How to Party Like Leonardo Da Vinci
by Maya Talisman Frost
"After studying scores of great thinkers like
Leonardo Da Vinci, I think I've stumbled upon what
really set them apart from the rest of the folks living
(and thinking) at the same time.
It's remarkably simple. They learned how to entertain
a thought.
Aristotle said, "It is the mark of an educated mind to
be able to entertain a thought without accepting it."
Hmmm. To entertain a thought without accepting it.
We need to do that. Everyone needs to learn how to
be a good host or hostess to new ideas. In fact, our
goal should be to become the Martha Stewart of mental
entertaining!
What if you treated a new thought like a guest?
It's easier to think about mental entertaining if we
put together a to-do list, just like Martha. Here it
is:
#1 Make the first move
First of all, you issue an invitation. Nothing fancy.
You don't have to make any major investment or lifelong
commitment. You're simply inviting this person in.
It's the same with initiating the entertainment of an
idea. You might see a quote on the side of a bus
somewhere, and decide you'd like to explore that
concept more deeply. Or, maybe you find yourself
bumping into the same topic all the time, and so you
make up your mind to learn more about it. Either way,
you need to be ready to initiate the process. Don't
hide—you won't meet new ideas if you scurry away
whenever the doorbell rings.
#2 Prepare
Uh-oh. Your house is a mess. You'd better do some
cleaning. You're not really trying to impress, but
hey, you could certainly do some sprucing up and get
the place looking neat and inviting.
Prepare for a new thought in the same way. Make
some space in your mind to think about something
new. According to Deepak Chopra, the well-known
author on health and longevity, the average human has
60,000 thoughts a day. Pretty impressive? Well,
here's the kicker: 57,000 of those are the same ones
you had YESTERDAY! Now that's some serious clutter!
Get rid of a few of those dusty old thoughts and make
room for new ones.
#3 Offer a warm greeting
When your new guest arrives, be warm and inviting.
After all, you're hoping to start a friendship. Put
your best foot forward.
It's the same with an idea. If you confront it with
skepticism, fear or detachment, you won't be
entertaining it for long. You'll be eyeing your watch,
yawning, or looking for a way to end the discussion
early. You've got to be open and full of anticipation
to prepare an environment in which new ideas will be
explored and integrated fully. Just as it's no fair
making lame excuses or having your friend call to
interrupt the visit, it's also cheating to cut out too
soon when it comes to entertaining an idea.
#4 Make introductions
This is the big one. You would certainly introduce
your guest to everyone at the party, with a special
effort to connect them to those with whom they may have
something in common.
Any new idea you consider will be more likely to be
welcomed if you actively and intentionally introduce it
to your other ideas and interests. Look for unusual and
inspired pairings. How does it fit? Where does it
fit? DOES it fit? You won't know until you try.
Picture Leonardo Da Vinci's mental entertaining. His
new idea, Human Flight, arrives, and immediately Leo
sets about introducing him to others. "Human, meet my
good friend, Engineering, and his lovely wife, Fabric
Design. Oh, and have you met Bird Anatomy? She
lives just around the corner from you. Oh, Dr.
Entomology has arrived! Listen, Dr. E is absolutely
brilliant, but a bit hard of hearing. Ask her about
her recent work on the wings of insects! Now, you all
make yourselves comfy and I'll go get some more
wine."
What happened at that party? Leonardo threw these
ideas together, and BAM! What emerged was the idea
for a perfectly designed parachute as well as a
remarkable helicopter—hundreds of years before the
Wright brothers started building their flying machines!
Talk about a soaring success! Don't you wish you'd
been there?
#5 Offer the best seat in the house
You usually sit in that nice chair there by the
fireplace, but when a special guest comes over, you
graciously offer it.
When you are entertaining a new thought, give it the
consideration it deserves. Every time you think a new
thought, your brain is actually creating a new neural
pathway. It's like a jungle in there, full of nerve
endings and ganglia and all kinds of connections. Help
it along. Make it comfortable.
Once you've considered an idea, that pathway is
there. All you have to do to keep it "live" is to keep
going down that path often enough to clear the trail,
but not so often that it becomes a rut.
#6 Listen, inquire, and show interest
Ask questions. Dig a little deeper. Find the
connections to other people, places, and activities.
Learn as much as you can about your new idea.
#7 Relinquish control
Just like when you introduce guests to each other, you
should not try to control the outcome. Some guests
might hate each other on sight, while others click
instantly. People might argue, or a married guest
might sneak off to a back room with someone other than
their partner. Anything can happen!
That's not up to you. You're having this party to
offer an opportunity for people to connect. Make
introductions, insert a few comments, smile and
acknowledge everyone, but for the most part, just let
things happen. Don't direct the flow of ideas.
#8 Leave room for future possibilities
Even if you decide this new neighbor of yours is
insufferable, you don't want to burn any bridges. Be
gracious, and be glad you were excellent enough to
offer the invitation.
You're not going to like every idea that comes your
way. And you might not find any other interest or idea
that connects with it initially. That's fine. You
need to develop the ability to recognize useful
concepts and distinguish valuable and valid ideas from
those lacking a strong foundation. That's what
critical thinking is all about.
But you also need to file that idea away so that you
can look it up if and when you DO meet a likely
candidate for another gathering of thoughts.
There is a great deal of room for different styles of
mental entertaining. Maybe you're best at dealing with
only two ideas at a time, or maybe you want to throw a
huge bash and welcome all comers.
Entertain in whatever style suits you. Tete-a-tete or
bacchanal—it doesn't matter, as long as it's
happening.
Learn how to entertain a thought. With a little
effort, you'll become a perfect host or hostess to new
ideas that come your way. And guess what? You'll have
no hangover, no cleaning up, and no regrets.
Party on!
Copyright © Maya Talisman Frost 2003
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